The Age Gap - Does it Really Matter?

The age gap between couples is universally discussed, usually by those least concerned but most often in critical terms of either one or both parties involved. In cases where the woman is significantly younger than the man, opinions usually concur that she is gold digging. The fact is, though, that gold digging is certainly not confined to individuals who marry or live with partners much older than themselves and can be a factor in many relationships where the partners are closer in age.

The man is invariably accused of trying to recover his lost youth by bagging a trophy wife, 'fooling himself' into thinking he can stretch his remaining years a little further by introducing a fresh - er -face into the proceedings. Perhaps.

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What is always evident in these matters is that onlookers, for some reason, display a curious passion about the couple's private affairs, almost as if they are directly affected. Close relatives aside, there could not be any harm in two people finding a mutual rapport and pursuing a meaningful romance, whatever the age.

The Age Gap - Does it Really Matter?

Problems do arise where the couple make the decision to have children. A man who continues to have children past the age of sixty is undeniably condemning his child to a one parent family unit as he will surely not be around to see his offspring's teenage years unless he exceptionally healthy. Alternatively, women who marry men much younger than themselves have little chance or inclination to bear more children and are unlikely to be granted adoption due to their age. Ergo, the man is then consigned to a childless existence.

Also, the unfortunate fact is that usually there are casualties of such liaisons. A man setting his cap at a very young woman is sometimes casting aside a faithful wife who is pitifully ill-equipped to compete with a girl half her age for her man's affections. Grown up children of a twenty or thirty year marriage can assert plenty of pressure on a father who has plans to desert their mother for a woman younger than them. The same applies to women setting up house with a younger man, although usually women are without partners. In this case, the grown up children tend to have a greater influence on their mother and can sometimes engineer a lengthy separation unless the mother is very strong willed.

Where couples are intellectually mature enough to weigh up the advantages and disadvantages of the age gap, one must assume they are also apprised of the pitfalls and are not entering into the relationship without full knowledge of the possible consequences. On this basis, we should surely be leaving them alone to iron out their own problems instead of making the sweeping assumption that it is all going to go horribly wrong and spitefully waiting in the wings to see what is going to happen next.

Easy to say, provided it is not your own eighteen year old daughter proposing a lifetime with a man of forty three and tearfully protesting "...but I love him...!" when being told she must give up the idea and find someone more suitable.

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