Do you find yourself saying "I miss her," and can't get her off your mind? If you're ever going to get her back you need to find ways to get on with life and move forward. A break up can hit a man as hard as anything he will face and yet there is life after your ex. You can and you must find your way to the other side of the depression and pain. In order to do this you must take firm action to move forward and avoid damaging your relationship skills. Imagine you free of stress and living the life you've always dreamed of and with a loving partner who adores you.
First things first, you must work on bringing closure to the split. Just what is closure? It is when you accept a situation and start to move on facing a new beginning. After taking this step you will still feel the pain flare up at times and thinking, "I miss her," however it will get better and happen less and less. Continue on by admitting that the relationship is seriously over. Lying around thinking there's a chance you can get back with her will keep you from moving on. Healing begins by putting an end to it and making a clean break. We are all creatures of habit. All relationships become a habit. Any habit can be broken and replaced with a new habit. Out with the old and in with the new. Practice saying, "Next", and imagine the great new adventures you will enjoy.
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The next thing to do is physically shut the relationship down. You do that by giving and taking back all of the personal possessions you've exchanged. Gather all her stuff, the tooth brush, hair brush and curling iron she kept under your sink, put them in a box and return her stuff. You could even include half eaten boxes of her favorite crackers or snacks she once enjoyed with you. This really helps you to exercise this ghost from every corner of your mind. When you return these items ask her for the sweat shirt and ball cap she has of yours.
Now the healing begins, you have your possessions back and now get your space. You may hope to be friends with your ex in the future, however staying away for now will allow healing. Don't call, text, or email her and keep busy ignoring the urge. If she tries to call, text, or email you, screen her out, don't respond. Avoid the places you know she is likely to frequent. Don't put yourself in any situation that will allow her to get under your skin. Plus you could see her with another guy while out and about and you are just not ready for that yet. Seeing this so soon will just bring back feelings of "I miss her" all over.
Changing some of your social habits is a great plan and helpful to the healing as well. Go to a new church, a new favorite hangout or bar as well. You can also shop at a new grocery store to avoid your ex. Try some new foods, especially those she wouldn't like and change things up a bit. Once you go to new places you'll inevitably meet some interesting new people, some of which will be female. The new women you meet will give you a fresh prospective on things and be good dating prospects. Although you may feel that you never want to date again, just simply hanging out and keeping new company will speed up the healing process.
People Need People.
• Seek out new and available women.
• Take a work out, cooking or dance class.
• Join a co-ed sport or coach a co-ed team.
• Take up new activities or a new hobby.
• All of which will help you to interact with new women and regain your comfort and confidence.
If you find yourself interested in a woman, ask her out. Don't worry that you don't want a long term relationship. A date is a fun social experience and requires no commitment, get back in practice and have fun. Before you know it, you won't be saying "I miss her" anymore and will be enjoying your new found freedom.
I Miss Her - How to Move ON! Alexandra Burke - Let It Go Video Clips. Duration : 3.77 Mins.Rating: 4.8054132
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